Looking after yourself as a carer

Unfortunately, the person you care for may enter the end of their life and it is important that you receive the necessary support at this difficult time. 

As an unpaid carer, understanding end of life care is essential. This care, which you provide alongside health professionals, begins when the person you're looking after is in the final stages of life. It's important to ensure the quality of care and feel empowered to address any concerns.

End of life care can occur in various settings, including homes, hospitals, care homes, or hospices, and the choice of setting should be based on both your preferences and those of the person you're caring for. 

Planning ahead by discussing and respecting the wishes and preferences of the person you're looking after is crucial. 

Additionally, as caring for someone at this stage can be challenging, it's important to prioritise your own wellbeing, stay informed about changes in symptoms, and understand the available financial support.

Dealing with bereavement

Kingston Carers Network can provide you with ongoing support for up to one year after the death of the person you cared for.  

Dealing with bereavement as a carer in Kingston can be a profoundly challenging experience. It's important to know that support is available to help you through this difficult time. 

Local support available

Kingston works with organisations that can help you cope with grief, this includes:

• Cruse Bereavement Care offers specialised support and can be a valuable resource
• local support groups on Connected Kingston where you can share your experiences with others who have gone through similar situations

If you’re a young carer

Achieving for Children (AfC) offers valuable information on grief services and support in Kingston.

Kingston Bereavement Service provides support, counselling, and understanding for young carers going through bereavement.

Tips to help you cope 

Dealing with the loss of someone you cared for is a significant event, and you do not have to go through it alone.

You should

• take care of your physical and mental health. Grief can impact your body and mind, so it's important to maintain a healthy lifestyle, get enough rest, and do activities that relax and fulfil you
• allow yourself to grieve in your own way and time. Everyone's experience with grief is different, and there's no standard way to process it
• consider seeking professional help if you find it difficult to cope. Your GP can offer advice and refer you to counselling or mental health services if necessary